Post-Divorce Shape-Up Cheat Sheet from Personal Trainer Joe Antouri

Joe Antouri, legendary personal trainer for top executives/celebrities and creator of the world’s first gum that supports healthy metabolism: FITGUM, has graciously lent his advice for women who are looking to get into shape post-divorce in their twenties. His motivational strategy? Make your ex jealous!  Read below.

“You must move forward and leave them behind: that means concentrate on YOU like you are NEW,” Antouri told Trash the Dress.

Follow these steps and make them jealous: 

1.  Always eat breakfast.
2.  Always workout and try like hell to get in better shape.
3.  Lose some weight by adjusting your diet.
4.  Eat SMART and eat LESS.
5.  Ditch dessert.
6.  Concentrate on making better decisions for next time around.
7.  Surround yourself with only the people who are going to take you higher.
8.  The question is not “Who is going to let ME?”: it is “Who is going to STOP ME?”
9.  Become more assertive for BETTER SELF ESTEEM.
10. STAY ON TRACK and GET FITTER than ever.


Joe Antouri is….

  • A certified Nutrition Specialist CNS
  • World class athlete
  • MR.USA
  • Personal Trainer to executives and stars
  • Founder/President of the Personal Trainers Association, a Worldwide Certification and education organization educating and certifying personal trainers and nutritionists in many fields since 1980.
  • Creator of  the world’s first gum that supports healthy metabolism: FITGUM


  • ABA Athletic Spokesman and National Judge.
  • AAU National Judge.
  • NPC National Judge.
  • Member of the Student Dietetic and Food Association.
  • Certified by Professional Trainers Association.
  • CEO/Founder US Personal Trainers Association, “PROPTA”
  • CEO/Founder of National Fitness League.


  • NPC-Mr. Physique USA 1st Place.
  • NPC-Mr. Southern California 1st Place and Overall
  • Winner / couples 1st Place.
  • NPC-Mr. Los Angeles 1st Place.
  • AAU-Mr. Central California 1st Place & Best Poser
  • AAU-Mr. California 1st Place.
  • NPC-Superbowl of Bodybuilding Champion 1st Place.
  • NPC-Iron Man Champion 1st Place.
  • WABBA-World Bodybuilding Champion 2nd Place.
  • AAU- Jr.Mr. USA 1st Place and Most Muscular Award.
  • NPC-U.S.A. Bodybuilding Champion 1st Place.
  • AAU-Nationals Bodybuilding Champion 1st place.
  • ABA- Mr. USA 1st place.
  • NABBA-World Amateur Bodybuilding Champion 6th Place & Couples 6th Place.

Tired of Starting Over? Don’t Give Up!

It’s a month and a half into the new year and we’ve all kept our resolution to get in shape, right?


… me either.

It’s hard to find motivation to get to the gym and eat healthy in the first place, but it’s even harder when the weather is cold and warm, delicious comfort food is calling your name. Not only that, but the stress of a recently deteriorated relationship or marriage, the joy of starting a new one (my mom likes to call this “happy fat”), or even our new found pleasure in cooking all may add to the cause against us keeping our resolutions.

Luckily, last year I was able to accomplish one of many goals after my split: I studied hard and passed my exam to become a Certified Personal Trainer with the National Academy of Sports and Medicine (NASM). Athletics and fitness have been in my life since a young age as a gymnast and continued into my adulthood where I found passion in the gym by learning new ways to challenge and work my body. Over the past few years, and especially from studying to be a personal trainer, I have learned tips and tricks to keep myself motivated to stay in shape. That comes with saying that I, too, have fallen off the wagon since the holidays began, and I also found it hard to stick to a new regimen after the new year. I recently joined a new gym and luckily my passion has been reignited!

So, here are some tips to help you ladies stay motivated, or at the least, become a healthier you!

  1. Don’t beat yourself up! This is – and always will be – my number one piece of advice for anyone who is anywhere in their fitness (or life) journey. We all make mistakes and we all fail. When you stop talking down to yourself when you have the occasional doughnut, or kick yourself for choosing to sit on the couch instead of working out, you’re only doing a disservice to yourself! It’s important to realize that it’s OK not to be perfect, and only then you will begin to feel better about making the wrong choice sometimes – ultimately helping you feel better about yourself all around. Give yourself a few positive affirmations to use when you find yourself dealing with negative self talk – play around with what makes you feel good! These also work great when you want to give up in the middle of a workout. Some examples are: “Negativity won’t ruin me!” “I am worth it!” and “I choose to be proud of me!” (Do a quick search for more, there are tons out there!)
  2. Start small. Making good choices and working out is a habit that has to be developed over time. Whether you’re a regular at the gym, or are winded after walking up a flight of stairs, changing something is going to be best accomplished through small steps. By making small changes to our routines, we’re more likely to succeed in our long term goals. For example, if you rarely work out (or don’t at all), start by setting a goal to be active for 15 minutes each day a few days a week, and when you become comfortable with that, up your time to 30 minutes or even take on a fourth day each week! For food, switch out a few unhealthy meals a week for steamed veggies and baked chicken or fish. The point is that it should not be overwhelming. Change is a process that happens over time, and after taking several small steps to become a healthier you, you’ll notice that after a while, those healthy changes have become a habit!
  3. Shift your focus. Studies have shown that when the focus of working out shifts from losing weight to focusing on the feeling we get immediately after a workout, the more likely we are to stick with it. So instead of thinking about how many pounds you want to lose, think about how good you feel after your workout. The last thing we want to do is to become obsessive over the number on the scale (we all know how slowly it can seem to move). But, if you treat working out as an enjoyment rather than a chore, you’re going to want to keep doing it, and the pounds will come off as a result! The less we think about losing weight and instead focus on feeling good, the more we’re going to want to stay active.
  4. Lastly, Enjoy yourself! Finding something you enjoy doing is one of the best ways to keep up motivation to stay active. Experiment with different forms of exercise that you think you’d enjoy. If you don’t have access to classes at a local gym, check out Comcast on-demand workouts, do a search on YouTube, or go outside and take a walk and enjoy the scenery. The possibilities are truly endless! With the power of technology at your hands, you really have no excuse to get moving, even if it is just a little bit each day. Then there’s food… if you choose to indulge in the foods you really, really want (rather than, say, the chocolate chip cookies your coworker brought in), you will certainly value your experience with food a lot more! Let’s say you have a craving for cheesecake. Instead of going out and buying a  whole pie, wait a few days. If you still want cheesecake, go grab desert after dinner at your favorite spot with a friend and enjoy one piece! The key here is moderation and enjoyment. See, you CAN have your cake and eat it too!

I could list even more ways to stay motivated, because there really are so many, but the one thing us ladies really need to focus on is loving ourselves; Starting a fitness regimen is certainly one way of doing that. Being consistently active will help you feel and look better about yourself, not to mention the sense of accomplishment you will feel when you look back at how far you’ve come!

Stay tuned for more work out and motivational tips (and maybe even some challenges!!!) in future blog posts!

If you have any questions for your fellow divorcee and friendly CPT, please feel free to e-mail me or leave a comment below!