Got engaged: Age 21 (I met my ex-husband mid-freshmen year of college 2001 at age 18.)
Married: Age 23
Divorced: Age 30 (I turned 30 a week before my divorce was finalized)
Current age: 30
The best thing about being divorced in my twenties is…… No more drama or stress! Having my own place to decorate how I wanted was a fun bonus. Not having sports on TV every night was awesome. No in-laws to contend with, somewhat bittersweet but more sweet honestly, having the bed to myself was priceless! I became ME again too!
I celebrated my divorce by…….. A movie date with my two sons at home. I wanted a girls night out but my best friends are 1,000 miles away in New Jersey and I live in Florida but a quiet night with my boys was perfect!!! Think it was the best thing I could have done!
My divorce anthem is…… I listened to a lot of Kelly Clarkson. No one song came to mind as being my anthem though. I found Katy Perry’s “Love Me” to be inspiriting because no all anthems need to be angry rants after all.
Advice for others just starting the divorce process: Do not be bitter, instead be wise and patient. If you have children, be loving, patient and kind. Get the book, Dinosaurs Divorce Too. My sons loved it and it was truly helpful.
If I could trash my wedding dress in any way, it would be: I would dye mine hot pink and black. Maybe chop off the bottom to make it a cocktail dress.
Last word: Final note, for women who hope to remarry someday my advice is simple. My first attorney once told me, “pick wiser, or maybe just wisely next time” and then said, “Your first marriage teaches you to learn from the mistakes you make, so it can prepare you for the marriage you were meant to have with another.” I have learned and continue to learn a great deal as I work on self love and improvement. iI has taught me to be wiser, not bitter, and learn from the mistakes I made to have a healthier and happier relationship(s) to come.
Never stop believing in love!