Nikki

Divorcée Demographics:
Met future ex-husband: Age 24

Bling, bling, got the ring: Age 26

Got Hitched: Age 27

Ditched: Age 29

Current age: 30

Location: A little bit of everywhere.

The best thing about being divorced in my twenties is… being forced to focus on myself. I lost a lot of myself in my marriage and relationship and I didn’t even know it.

I wouldn’t say I celebrated my divorce. It hit me hard and I fell apart. I’m a little worse for wear now, but I am moving forward and putting myself back together. I am starting to see the silver lining of it all. For example, I forgot I had a full life before he ever came along. I had friends and interests and suddenly- it’s all about me again! I’m so thankful those friends are still there.

This is kind of silly, but I latched onto the Sex and the City movie when it was all going down.

My divorce anthem is… India Arie’s cover of “The Heart of the Matter” struck a chord with me. I remember walking through the Miami International and SeaTac Airports listening to the soundtrack over and over as I waited for my flights out after visiting friends. I remember looking out the window, at SeaTac, onto the tarmac during sunrise as she sang, “You’ve got to put it all behind you, because life goes on. If you keep carrying anger it’ll eat you up inside.”

Advice for others just starting the divorce process: Concentrate on what you can control each day. The smallest thing in your power can make up for a cluster of things you can’t do anything about.

If I could trash my wedding dress in any way, it would be… by giving it to a roller girl to modify and wear in a bout.

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