Songs to mourn the end of your marriage

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While Trash the Dress advocates remaining positive and emotionally strong through your divorce, we do recognize that before you can get to that point, you have to mourn.

These songs are for those of you who are just sitting down (or maybe standing up and screaming) to have that dreaded talk. They are for those who just realized their marriages are over and are wondering how to tell their families and friends. And for those who are so heartbroken they can barely breathe.

First up is “Here Comes The….” by my favorite singer, Butch Walker featuring Pink. It’s one of the songs that was on my divorce playlist.

Lyrics you’ll love: “Here comes the heartache, the move out date, excuses for my friends. Here come the reasons I have to justify it was better in the end. Here comes the last night I’m gonna kiss you and the first night eating alone. Here comes the hardest thing we’ve ever known.”

My favorite breakup song of all time is “Breathe” by Greenwheel. I cried hysterically over this song when I broke up with my first love.

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Lyric you’ll love: “I’m alright, I’m alright/ It only hurts when I breathe.”

Of course there are a ton more tearjerkers but these are two that you most likely don’t know but totally should!

Butch Walker Sings About His Divorce at Age 22 in New Song, “I’ve Been Waiting For This”


This morning Butch Walker released a new song, “I’ve Been Waiting For This,” from his upcoming EP, Peachtree Battle (out 9/17 | pre-order on iTunes; or cd/vinyl |out 10/22) and on it he sings about getting divorced when he was 22 years old!

I obviously love this because Walker has been a huge inspiration in my life since he fronted the band Marvelous 3 way back in 1998 and I got know to him through many interviews for my old music zine, Planet Verge. Those of you who have followed me since I began writing my book, Trash the Dress: Stories of Celebrating Divorce in your 20s (pending publication) may even recall a blog I wrote on the book website at the start of 2012 when I was in the middle of the writing process titled “Take 2012 One Day at a Time.” I mentioned how Walker’s song, “Take Tomorrow (One Day at a Time)” is a great motivational divorce anthem. You’ll hear a lot about his music and therapeutic/ feel good songs from other artists in my book, too. Gosh, I wish you could all read it now!

Anyway, listen to “I’ve Been Waiting For This.”  Walker describes it as a coming of age movie, but in a song.

Let me know what you think!

Divorce Anthem: Gin Wigmore, “Happy Ever After”

This one’s for all the twenty-something divorced women who were victims of a cheating husband.

Gin Wigmore‘s newest album, Gravel & Wine, features “Happy Ever After,” a song we’re adopting as a divorce anthem. Bonus awesomeness: Butch Walker produced the album and performs on many of the tracks. We’re thankful to finally be able to rock out to this accomplished Aussie in America!

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