Start your day with caffeine and a compliment? Your post-divorce life will already be off to a better start than your marriage with this little knick knack from Etsy. Love it for your new home decor!
We really shouldn’t have been surprised that Avril Lavigne, 28, married Nickelback frontman Chad Kroeger wearing a custom-made black Monique Lhuillier gown for her June 29th goth-themed nuptials. After all, isn’t that what everyone expected when at 21 years old she walked down the aisle to marry Sum 41 punk rocker Deryck Whibley in a custom-made, ivory, strapless organza Vera Wang gown and long veil, proceeded by bridesmaids in romantic light pink dresses?
(After three years and one month of marriage, Lavigne announced her divorce on her blog and stated, “Deryck and I have been together for six and a half years. We have been friends since I was 17, started dating when I was 19, and married when I was 21.”)
Her bridal look for marriage 2.0? Completely personalized. No facades. We would have liked to see a pop of color with red roses, though.
Second marriages and weddings are a chance to learn from your past and do everything the way you wish you could have done the first time around, whether it be to elope on an island, have a spur-of-the-moment private ceremony in Town Hall or a take a year to plan that banquet hall bash you never got to have. And if that means wearing a black gown, go for it.
When I was picking out dresses for my upcoming wedding (We’re two months away! Yay!), I was seriously considering a blush gown. I was thisclose to ordering a tulle wedding dress in blushing pink from Ouma on Etsy (below). The only thing that stopped me was my groom. Although this is my second wedding, it’s his first. And he wanted a traditional, friend-and-family-filled wedding. I don’t think a pink bride was painted in his vision and I also happened to have already purchased some ivory accessories that I didn’t think would match. So I nixed the pink and found an ivory gown to which I could add unique touches.
Truth be told, you can be a lot more adventurous when planning your second wedding. If you already had the “bride” experience you can take this as an opportunity to make everything totally “you.” Put a colorful piece of tulle under your gown, ditch the veil and wear a sparkling sash around your head like Lavigne (below), forgo the chain bridal store and order your dress from BHLDN, Ruche, Nordstrom bridal or even ModCloth.
Avril’s hair/makeup style for her second wedding? Roar: sexy and sultry.
Her first? Meow: beautiful and elegant but totally not reflective of her personality.
Read more about Marriage After Divorce in your Twenties.
Divorce stole your love, trust, hope, money and half of all the awesome gifts you received at your bridal shower and wedding. Don’t let this shattering life event rob you of the essentials every woman deserves: kitschy housewares, crafty jewelry and vintage treasures. Turn that sorrow into a soirée! Throw a divorce party or housewarming celebration to show off your revived digs and set up an Etsy registry so friends and family can help you rebuild your (material) life.
Granted, the Etsy registry was launched for wedding planning, but who cares!? You deserve it. And besides, when you meet the next man worthy of having the title of your husband (and you will!), when your Big Day comes along you can just embark on the fun all over again and set up another registry.
So give your Pinterest dream boards a break and start collecting items online that can actually have!